The part that is easy to leave out of the sum
The gap between the cheapest and dearest transfer in that table is substantial each way, and doubles on a return. Because the transfer is priced per car rather than per person, that difference is the same whether one of you travels or four.
So a flight from Stansted would need to be meaningfully cheaper than the same flight from Southampton before the transfer difference alone is covered — and that is before the extra hours in the car, parking, or baggage charges that may differ between the two.
It is not a rule about which airport is cheaper: that depends on the fares available on your dates. It is simply a cost most people leave out when comparing one flight price against another. If you are weighing up two airports, ask us for both transfer quotes before you book the flight rather than after.